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Benefits of Positive Self-Talk | Conversations with Anika

Self-talk and self-love seem like buzzwords these days, don’t they?

Everyone is “searching” for themselves. The kicker is that they were never lost in the first place. I’ve seen it happen to myself, others, and especially women.

We start comparing ourselves to people we see in the media and curated Instagram posts. Before we realize it, we’re in a downward spiral of negative self-talk.

Negativity from another person is bad. But when it comes from your own head – that’s rough!

Ready to kick that rude inner critic to the curb? We’re exploring the benefits of positive self-talk in this post. I’m also sharing my new approach to empowering my clients.

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The Way You Speak To Yourself Matters


Whether you say things out loud or not, your body and mind begin to respond to that vibrational frequency.

If you feel like you’re too fat and think negative thoughts, your body and mind will believe the idea to be true.

Here’s the thing – our subconscious minds can’t tell the difference between a truth or a lie. It simply responds to feelings inside our bodies.

You’re the most influential person in your head, which is why it’s so important to push out any negative thoughts.


If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t THINK it about yourself.

If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, how dare you say it to yourself?

We have to redirect our subconscious into remembering our self-worth.

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I’m proof that speaking to yourself more kindly can transform your self-esteem and body image.

A Boudoir Photography Session is the Ultimate Act of Self-Love


When a client inquires about a boudoir photography session, I lead with the same question. “Who are you doing this shoot for?”

My inner badass kicks in if they say they’re doing it for their partner.

“Nope. You’re doing this for yourself, and you can GIFT the photos to your partner!”


I set the tone upfront during the consultation. A boudoir session is for the client first.

My boudoir sessions are created to EMPOWER women.

I want her to feel sexy, bold, confident, and do the session FOR HERSELF.

Once we’ve moved past that question, we move on to their “client homework.”

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How I Coach My Boudoir Photography Clients with Self-Love Actions


I hear it all the time from my female clients, “I hate the way my arms look” or “My cellulite looks awful.” This list is endless.

Sure, we can hide their least favorite parts with posing, wardrobe, or editing. But this year, I’ve changed my approach. I’m on a mission to empower every woman, starting with my photography clients.


Now, my boudoir clients get the assignments listed below as “client homework.”

The homework helps to boost my clients’ confidence before their session. And I always hope it’ll carry over into their everyday life too.


Assignment One: Wear matching undergarments every day for a week before their session.

Why? To build up self-esteem! Little touches matter.


Assignment Two: Speak positive affirmations OUT LOUD for a week before their session.

Why? This sends signals to the subconscious mind. It reminds the person that they are safe, beautiful, and perfect as they are.


Assignment Three: Make a list of positive and negative things they think about their body. Highlight the negative aspects and speak love into those areas.

Why? It’s important to love every part of yourself for true self-acceptance.

An example of that might look like this:

Negative Body Thought: I don’t like my belly rolls

Reframed Body Thought: I am thankful for my belly rolls, it means I have had food and nourishment. My body allows me to do incredible things!


Work with your inner critic. Let it know it’s not in charge anymore.

The more you feel lean into these feelings, the easier it will get to feel genuine self-love for yourself.

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Repeat this to yourself until you truly believe it!

Common Benefits of Positive Self-Talk


Did you know your body will boost some serious benefits from positive self-talk? Don’t take my word for it; some of these benefits came straight from The Mayo Clinic!

  • Lower levels of distress
  • Healthier immune system
  • Reduced pain
  • Better cardiovascular health
  • Improved mental health
  • Improved self-esteem
  • Reduced stress.


Positive Self-Talk and Affirmations I Use 


I’ll be honest with you. When I first started to speak positive affirmations out loud, it felt awkward.

But now, I embody and believe every single one of them.

Anika’s Affirmations:

  • I am confident
  • I am a successful entrepreneur
  • I attract clients easily
  • I am accomplished
  • I am beautiful
  • I am sexy
  • I love my belly rolls and cellulite (P.S. We ALL have it!)

Feel free to use my affirmations as a starting place for yourself.


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Want to continue this conversation?

On my first episode of Conversations with Anika (my brand new podcast),
I’m diving into this topic a bit further. I’d love for you to check it out!


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